The family of the girl gives a , or donation, to the boy she is to marry.The dowry goes with her at the time of the marriage and is controlled by the boy.Starting around the time of the American Civil War, courtship became a private matter for couples.In literature, the term is discussed in July 1988 in Neil Bartlett's, Who Was That Man? On pages 108-110, Bartlett quotes from an issue of The Artist and Journal of Home Culture, which refers to Alectryon as "a boyfriend of Mars".originally means "a man of aristocratic standing, and probably of noble ancestry, who is capable, if called upon, of equipping himself with a war horse and the arms of heavy cavalryman and who has been through certain rituals that make him what he is".The meaning of the term evolved over time because the word chevalier was used differently in the Middle Ages, from the original concrete military meaning "status or fee associated with military follower owning a war horse" or "a group of mounted knights" to the ideal of the Christian warrior ethos propagated in the Romance genre, which was becoming popular during the 12th century, and the ideal of courtly love propagated in the contemporary Minnesang and related genres.
Children were married at a young age; girls were as young as 12, and boys as young as 17.
Chivalry, or the chivalric code, is an informal, varying code of conduct developed between 11, never decided on or summarized in a single document, associated with the medieval institution of knighthood.
The ideals of chivalry were popularized in medieval literature, especially the Matter of Britain and Matter of France, the former based on Geoffrey of Monmouth's Historia Regum Britanniae which introduced the legend of King Arthur, written in the 1130s.
The code of chivalry that developed in medieval Europe had its roots in earlier centuries.
It arose in the Holy Roman Empire from the idealisation of the cavalryman—involving military bravery, individual training, and service to others—especially in Francia, among horse soldiers in Charlemagne's cavalry.